tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post5582943152988771469..comments2024-02-22T14:51:49.489+02:00Comments on Gay Warfare: Rather Have a Gay Child than a Dead Child?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-30422237272928357692010-01-17T22:11:00.569+02:002010-01-17T22:11:00.569+02:00Oursentiments, thank you. Like I commented on here...Oursentiments, thank you. Like I commented on here Gay Teen Suicide is a serious matter, not to be taken lightly or made a mockery off.<br /><br />I learned on Friday this whole thing was one sick hoax on Facebook. I and thousands of other people are outraged!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />Personally, this whole thing caused me emotional distress, embarrassment and anger!!!<br /><br />What sick mind could conceive such an atrocious and vulgar deception? Hundreds of GLBT teens commit suicide every week, millions of GLBT youth suffer each day just to make it through school and college. How one person or a group of people could conceive and idea of creating this hoax is beyond my comprehension.<br /><br />The only positive thing that came from this is it again brought the issue of gay teen suicide to the knowledge of the public. I don't appreciate the manner in which this was done and categorically denounce it - there are real lives to be saved: Real people on the edge of despair, real people contemplating suicide and GLBT people facing very real threats to their lifes. We must open up our eyes, identify these individuals and try to help them.<br /><br />So for everyone reading my blog I apologize! I was hideously deceived. Made to look the fool. Have egg on my face, and am embarrassed for being gullible. Regardless of my personal embarrassment I still want to urge everyone to please pay closer attention to our GLBT brothers and sisters. Guard over their well being, support each other and most importantly never stop caring!Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-12314251236788033732010-01-16T23:16:06.676+02:002010-01-16T23:16:06.676+02:00Very nicely stated, I am sorry for everyone's ...Very nicely stated, I am sorry for everyone's loss. What a great thought provoking posting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-53428882579262796352010-01-15T07:38:17.620+02:002010-01-15T07:38:17.620+02:00@ Sam Sall, no one can understand it. From what I...@ Sam Sall, no one can understand it. From what I understand he wasn't depressed.<br /><br />@ Anonymous, I couldn't agree more. We as a community should do more to reach out to the GLBT youth. We need more role models, more gay people openly showing we live happy and healthy lives. Show gay teens what their lives can be like. Give them HOPE.<br /><br />@ Marcia Silva, some people are blinded by their own ignorance and fear. That's the way they were raised and the communities they live in. Much work needs to be done to change this. All we can hope is that with time things will change.Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-9994356128319256902010-01-15T05:36:24.759+02:002010-01-15T05:36:24.759+02:00That is so sad!!! I am shocked!! If I had a child ...That is so sad!!! I am shocked!! If I had a child that is gay I would not care!! The only thing that matters it to be a good person!!! Why can't people live and let live!!???Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06065502157360291921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-27143229587294369172010-01-15T01:24:10.047+02:002010-01-15T01:24:10.047+02:00It is unfortunate that all of our young gay societ...It is unfortunate that all of our young gay society, has to turn to taking there own lives. I remember growing up pretending to be straight to my family and friends... when I came out of the closet, I lost most of my friends I hungout with in highschool, because I was gay. I beleive we adults, who are gay, need to step up to the plate, and set good examples and be role models to our young gay society. If we are to help all young gay men and women, who are not sure how to cope with family and friends disowning them, we can come together and help them... <br />I am very sorry for your loss, and my prayers are with you and his family. take care my friend.<br /><br /> sincerly,<br /> Ryan NoaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-90321312934315847532010-01-14T22:39:35.945+02:002010-01-14T22:39:35.945+02:00What a sad story, I JUST CANT understand why such ...What a sad story, I JUST CANT understand why such a young life can be brought the end this way , was he very depressed?.Sam Sallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953306289002119325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-76260334066444335002010-01-14T15:54:12.609+02:002010-01-14T15:54:12.609+02:00@ notoutofreach, I agree that blame should not be ...@ notoutofreach, I agree that blame should not be cast on anyone prematurely. However, it's a natural reaction to want to blame someone or something when something like this happens. However, regardless of that no matter what happened I think the most important thing is that people learn from this experience.<br /><br />@ swkpboy, thank you. People should be less afraid of exposing things like this. By covering up unpleasant events, situations or circumstances only makes it worse. If nobody knows about a problem, nobody will do anything about it.Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-84006054275773126482010-01-14T10:28:55.381+02:002010-01-14T10:28:55.381+02:00Pierre.. I love the fact that you are not afraid t...Pierre.. I love the fact that you are not afraid to put a face to a story. I hate how we live in a society were a lot of stuff still gets covered up. Thank you for caring. Johanswkpboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02645720336361199034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-89801878339122419122010-01-14T07:53:09.444+02:002010-01-14T07:53:09.444+02:00that is indeed a very tragic story. thanks for the...that is indeed a very tragic story. thanks for the post. i would be extremely careful however to blame anyone prematurely, especially the parents. i mean, what if your impression is wrong - how painful it must be for them to not only lose a son, but then to have others blame them for it? as a parent, i could not imagine the incredible devastation of it...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-65622905848962689492010-01-14T05:32:31.353+02:002010-01-14T05:32:31.353+02:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06065502157360291921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-59627279732116566572010-01-14T01:43:08.662+02:002010-01-14T01:43:08.662+02:00I just can't say anything...Im speechless. He ...I just can't say anything...Im speechless. He truly was called to become an Angel because his life in this realm was NOT right !! May God keep him safe now !!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-42547315673721731202010-01-13T21:08:32.786+02:002010-01-13T21:08:32.786+02:00ChrisJ, it truly is. And not to mention all the o...ChrisJ, it truly is. And not to mention all the other souls we loose each year.Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-43025918569459662532010-01-13T20:25:19.496+02:002010-01-13T20:25:19.496+02:00I'm so sorry. What a waste of a young, burgeon...I'm so sorry. What a waste of a young, burgeoning life.ChrisJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13139508470517226199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-59680452824262144842010-01-13T18:30:48.520+02:002010-01-13T18:30:48.520+02:00Michael, thanks. This type of thing happens far t...Michael, thanks. This type of thing happens far too often. Young lives ended prematurely. It just goes to show intolerance truly kills!Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-10506271625228920422010-01-13T18:27:30.439+02:002010-01-13T18:27:30.439+02:00What a very very sad story. And senseless. My be...What a very very sad story. And senseless. My best thoughts go to those who loved him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-47534711246532835802010-01-13T18:18:50.035+02:002010-01-13T18:18:50.035+02:00@ Larissa, thank you!
@ nothingprofound, human be...@ Larissa, thank you!<br /><br />@ nothingprofound, human beings are such complicated creatures and the human psyche even more so. It truly is a sad state of affairs and tragic that this happened. Like I said and don't even think we can start to imagine in what pain his family must be in.Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-56995723700514966292010-01-13T17:45:39.477+02:002010-01-13T17:45:39.477+02:00Suicide is such a sad and baffling thing, and I do...Suicide is such a sad and baffling thing, and I don't think we'll ever get to the bottom of it. Why one person has that fighting spirit to endure, and another succumbs to despair and hopelessness. I'm sure this young man's family had no inkling of the magnitude of his inner conflicts, couldn't see that he was dangling over the precipice by a thread. One can only imagine how distressed and shocked they must be by the extremity of his action.nothingprofoundhttp://wwwaphorismscom.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-58745467585891028512010-01-13T17:34:21.313+02:002010-01-13T17:34:21.313+02:00I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of others...I am so sorry for your loss and the loss of others who cared for him.Larissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18254108021356196149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-88073585007700891012010-01-13T17:20:41.821+02:002010-01-13T17:20:41.821+02:00Thanks Todd for your wise words. I know we can...Thanks Todd for your wise words. I know we can't save everyone but we can sure do our best to try.<br /><br />I believe tragedies like this happens for a reason. Although it's painful for all involved and like you pointed out especially for his family, we must all try and take something positive from this. Sometimes it's hard to find that one positive life lesson, but it's there.<br /><br />For me, my own bias for blaming his family is my lesson and forgiveness of their ignorance is what will help me grow.<br /><br />On a larger scale I hope everyone will take a little more time to reach out to others, time to educate people and time spread tolerance.Bitter Bitcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11990040154381423943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5925801430510994170.post-34697146020519384662010-01-13T17:04:38.784+02:002010-01-13T17:04:38.784+02:00Hello My Friend,
Exceptional post that is very em...Hello My Friend,<br /><br />Exceptional post that is very emotional and to the right points. I know he was a gentle soul and that he was reaching out for help...you and others like you who place yourselves in view of the rest of the world can spread the word as you've so eloquently done here, but please make sure you don't take responsibility for the actions of this young man.<br /><br />I know that is a difficult thing to read, but I've been in your shoes since I've been blogging. I have answered the call of help by many who stumble during the coming out process. I've tried to help those who are twisted and turned around through the fear they feel and the hate that is preceived and actual. Because of the work we do, we must be prepared with resource names, phone numbers of those places like Gay Youth Centers and others that can truly help the individuals and in some cases the families.<br /><br />In my years of supporting the gay and lesbian world, I have learned a very harsh lesson...save the ones you can save and mourn the tragic loss of those you are unable too. <br /><br />I will say that it might help you with some closure if in the coming months you reach out to his family. Try to help comfort them in the way they may not have for their son. Help them to understand their fear, shame and lack of love and support while they get to know the part of their son they did not. Their actions may have been the final straw to their son. You must be gentle with them, because they may be blaming themselves and deserve our support. Also be prepared that they may take their internalized anger, greif and blame out on you.<br /><br />It truly is sad given all of the pain that is brought about by fear and ignorance....or HATE! Remember that each of us must take responsibility for ending HATE in those surrounding us.<br /><br />Sending you much love - ToddTodd M Dobsonhttp://www.tmdobson.comnoreply@blogger.com